B) Peaceful p1 | B) Peaceful p2

Framework for life

“The only real test of intelligence is if you get what you want out of life”

#1 Regret old ppl: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me”

How do we get there?

Proof –
Plan – All the shit I’ve consumed
Promise – Blueprint to set up your life so you can enjoy every day
If don’t feel gotten your value, full refund.

Colin’s ~90 sec schpeel

• Who the hell am I and what the hell am i doing on your screen
• Hated bragging
  • 5.2 weighted GPA
  • D1 school just over ~10%
  • 11 countries, 4 continents Dubai, Peru, Iceland, American
  • Biked 100 mi in a day, backflipped off cliffs, and run a marathon
• 6 years confused
  • HS – grinding for a goal, with maybe not as much joy as i’d like
• Was a bit of a nobody
  • Shy
  • Incredibly insecure, super self conscious, confidence negative
• Blessed Anxious, incessant worries, schosh of paranoia and splash distrust, Couldn’t hold a conversation to save my life
  
• 5 reg dying, australian nurse documented – #1 I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
• I spent next 6 years confused trying to figure out who the hell i was and where I was going
  • Failed a helluva lot along the way >> Winston churchill “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”
  • Pushed, scared, travelled to as many different places as possible;
  • talked and learned diff ppl & cultures as i could…. and surrounded myself w ppl who did the same
• Been so hell bent discovering myself and trying to do something useful
  • Sometimes push people out of my life and can ignore the reality I’m currently living.
  • wanted was a bit of validation. Always felt I had something to prove
• Psychologist jonathan haidt > Meaningful work & goal > Pursuit of Purpose
  • After dozen countries, countless adventures, and endless YT rabbit holes >> come to understand somethign else – no end state
• It’s good to create something we believe in, some future we’re working towrads, building a better world for our kids, kids kids, & ppl around us…
  • But life also just keeps happening & there’s gotta be some joy in this moment too
  • There is no end state
  • It’s here. It’s now. The this present moment. That’s the only one we have
    • 1000 years from now – none of fit matters
    • Carl Sagan Pale Blue Dot
• How the hell do we live a fruitful life?
  • Harvard Happiness Study 700, lasting over 70 years
  • 5 Reg Dying > 3 directly to relationships
  • But i’ve got this unrelenting drive want money or girls… maybe status
• Back at square 1 – How the hell do we live a fruitful life?
  • I guess the simplest answer i’ve been able to come up with is a blend of
    • Purpose
    • Peace and having fun
    • Quality relationships
• Not here to sell you a dream nor shove one down ur throat
  • Don’t have close to all the answers
  • Have spent past 6 years reading, exploring, and doing my damndest to understand this chaotic mayhem we call life
  • And i’ve come to realize everyone out there is doing the exact same thing
• Us peasants aren’t the only one who think about this stuff – Good for us, ppl been thinking about life for 1000s of years
  • Lessons from people who had the Longest Lives ever
  • Lessons from some of the Happiest
  • Japan? BlueZones?
  • when i’m 100 years old i want to look back and be proud
• Hopefully this is usfeul, consolidated the most fruitful ways of life
  • Healthy, wealthy, happy
  • Peace and Purpose, Peace and purpose

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1 min – “I’ll be happy when… graduate… college… job… relationship”
Colin Video?

Problems I’ve Solved

• Overworking – Thought I could work my way to peace
  • Celebrate small wins
  • Have to trust something – gymnastics wanted to work needed rest
  • The more you give yourself the more you can ask of yourself – Gymnastics wanted to work needed rest
  • high price we pay
  • 5 reg dying
  • 4000 weeks
  • die w zero
  • Peace is every step
  • Feel Good Productivity
• Peace
• Happy
  • Happy is a false sense security
  • Peace, Purpose, Relationships – Rogan
• Intuition – Your best guide is you
  • Jobs Karma
  • Gary Vee One day we’ll undertstand Intuition
  • Our bodies tell us more than we think – we’ve been masked in societal pressures and anti-depressants because we haven’t taught people how to deal with issues naturally
  • Dad n mom divorce – not ‘right’ understand self – Juli marriage and Madi Ben and Me n Meaghanne

Pale Blue Dot – everything ever done, loved, seen, or wanted

Guiding Principles (~3 hr) > Fact

(Change common perception – Fact)

1. 1 min Life’s a single player game – Naval
   • Far more concerned w trajectory
2. 5 min 5 Reg Dying
3. 15 min High price we pay
4. 15 min Harvard Happy Study
5. 35 & 8 min Suggested: BlueZones Netflix Doc 35 or Vice Documentary 8
6. Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs? What humans need in life
7. Colin vid? Peace, Purpose (link), Relationships (link)
8. On the Shortness of Life by Seneca

1 min – Not joy makes us grateful, grateful makes us joy

*Main Points of Note

1. Quality of your relationships is the single greatest determining factor of last happiness
2. Peace and Happiness do not exist in some oasis in a future point in time: If you aren’t happy now you still won’t be after you attain whatever goal you’re chasing. Gratitude is a wildly underrated practice. There’s always something to be grateful for and it could always be worse.
3. You need a Purpose to give you life day in and day out. If you don’t find a purpose, society will assign you one whether you like it or not
4. Materialistic items only speed up the hedonic treadmill resulting in only short term happiness
5. The balance of Peace vs Purpose seem to contradict each other, I am still finding the line. How to build a better future while also enjoy the journey.
6. Pillars of Wellness:

I am convinced that the 8 pillars of Mental & Physical Health are:
1) Sleep
2) (Sun)light
3) Exercise
4) Stress Management
5) Relationships (Incl. To Self)
6) Nutrients (Amt., Timing, Content)
7) Oral Health & Gut Microbiome
8) Spiritual Grounding
Additions? Subtractions?

— Andrew D. Huberman, Ph.D. (@hubermanlab) February 1, 2024

Habits Framework w Science

1. HABITS – There’s no end state and nobody else makes you happy. You make you happy… and sometime it suckksss:
   
   • 1 min List: BlueZone Actionable – Community, stress, purpose, excise (netflix)
     • 1 min Huberman 8 pillars to make happy (side by side)
   • Quick Link practices – 5 min Jon Haidt article – (happy hypoth)
   • 1 min Ikigai Pic – World needs, passionate, make $,etc (book) (Masterclass) >> Purpose
   • 1 min Action – Gratitude Visit (link to podcast?) – So easy to get sucked into Hedonic Treadmill > Gratitude is the only way out. Living in the moment – Peace is Every Step
   • 1 min Action – Life’s like a video game – There is no end: if ur leveling up, you’ve already won
2. My discovery – Peace, Purpose, Relationships

>> Find Purpose: Find Your Happy – Customized life brings us joy
>> Relationships

All research shows it’s the day in day out – Will vary per person Peace, Purpose, Relationships, diff based on genes – When I’m 100 on my deathbed how will I want to lived. Set up our habits to make us happy – What’re the things that bring us joy?.

No endpoint. We don’t just get to be happy. You have to work for it. Happiness is how we feel on a day to day, not a single set point in time. You don’t get to happy. It’s not a single destination. There is no endpoint. You don’t get happy when you promote nor have kids nor retire.

Nobody makes you happy. You make you happy. It’s ever-fleeting. “My [dad] told me happiness is something that you create” Rich Brian. It’s, in part, a choice.

More Resources, and people making themselves happy: get u started:
Oldest People Alive

• 35 min BlueZones Netflix or Vice Docu – Ally Proof

3 Questions to Answer – Will Talk about in Purpose

• Perfect Day?
• Do, Have, Be
• What would you do if money was no object?
• Joy Journal – Time w friends
• 5 min Alan Watts clip totally helped – What if Money no object

>> Purpose?

Actionable Steps: Colin’s Habits of Happy

Estonia Vid? (1 min)

• Explore – further further further – What Brings you joy?
• Deprived showed me what i really wanted
• Spent so much time searching and searching – already had what i wanted – didn’t need to go to another country to get it
• Still love novelty and exploration

1. Progress in a skill/learn something
2. People
3. Time to reflect – walks or writing
4. 15 mins Excitement/Adrenaline – owe to self: biking, boarding, skiing – so much joy. Quality of life notably increased started biking, skateboarding, skiing. $30 skateboard – eBay or Craigslist.

Stress Mgt (anxiety) (link)

• Sauna & Cold therapy
• Writing – vomiting the mind – inside the mind nothing is happening. Like bunch of poisonous caterpillars in a cave – sun: once they escape they fly
• 35 min runs – move before midday otherwise angsty
• 10 min Wim Hof > 35 min meditation – tremendously helped my mental. hard af
• Sleep

It’s all related. Anxiety, couldn’t sleep. Couldn’t sleep poor emotions. Poor emotions someone takes advantage of me: distrust. Distrust insecure.
All related.

Relationship w Self (link)

• Celebrate the small victories – Jitsu
• Current trajectory not current results
• Naval Jealousy
• Comparison is the thief of joy -> Gratitude is the antidote to insecurity
• Single Player Game – Wouldn’t escape anywhere. I can build this better future but if i’m not happy today… what’s the point?

For the longest time growing up I was perpetually dissatisfied with who I was and where I was in life. I didn’t like who I was. I was uncomfortable. It took me a long time to come to actually appreciate who I am and find a way to live my life that I was content with. It took me awhile to figure out how to live my life so that I was actually happy.

Find ur happy: My Habits/Perf Day (banksy photo)

If I start feeling like garbage, it’s often because I’m missing one or a couple of those things. I’ll include a more extensive list at the bottom, but the basics are these: We’re born alone, we die alone. It’s up to us to make us happy

Other habits make me feel good – Perfect Day, Juli No Bad Days. Even tho I work a 9-5 I’ve figured out ways to incorporate what I need to daily life

1. 7.5 hours of quality sleep – Since become a priority. It’s a bedrock for how I feel throughout the day. Decisions. Emotional regulations. Irritations. All improve w sleep. (link)
2. 35 mins meditate
3. 1 hour Progress on a skill (business right now)
4. 15 mins Sunlight Walks
5. Drive – Audiobook
6. Work
7. Workout – Run/lift
8. Drive – Audiobook, reflect, call friends, music/peace
9. Socialize with friends –> Adrenaline/excitement
10. Learn something (Read/Audiobook links) – When I’m stagnating is when I feel the worst
11. Dinner w roommates
    • Underrated – Meals w ppl I care about (Never Eat Alone)
      

Other shit I like and feel bad after too long

• Nature
• Gratitude
• Laughter
• Eating Good (link)
• Long walks – whenever I’m bored instead doom scroll (link Digital Minimalism)
• Movie Night w friends/SO
• Good show
• Documentaries
• Reading – Libby instead doom scrolling sometimes (fkin nerd)
• Playing instruments
• Listening to music
• Dancing to music – Salsa/Line Dance
• Clubs w people – Improv, Salsa, Trivia
• Reflection (How to Live 24 Hours)
• Naps – Genuinely feels so good
• Skating/Biking/Skiing – bring immense amount of joy
• Smell the roses (Peace is every step)

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Reinforce – Key Reads

(once accept money isn’t everything)

1. 3 min Joe Rogan Happy
2. 1 min Jeff Bezos – Harmony
3. 1 min Hormozi x Williamson Happy vs Peace
   • Diff baseline happy

People

• Jeff Bezos – Balance life
• Dana White – Time w my kids
• JRE – Happiness is in motion
• Jordan Peterson – cocktails
• Sarah Blakely – reinvent self – 1st Female billionaire
• David Choe x JRE – Girls and money are a video game
• Dan Bilzerian – so focused on doing bigger and better that I was missing out on the things that truly made me happy
• Aristotle – intellectual stimulation
• Plato – pursure intellectual virtue
• Burkeman – Life is the sum of present moments
• “Comparison is the thief of joy”
• “I cried because I had no shoes, until I met a man who had no feet”
  
• Taylor Swift – if you don’t recognize yourself that means u did it right
• Drake – Scrolling thru like fishing for praise
• Drake – Times where i wish i was where I was
• Ed Sheeran – Thought it’d feel different playing wimbly
• Laroi – Listen to my favorite rappers
• Joyner Lucas – thought all of these hoes could solve the problem
• Lil Dicky? slave to my own ambition. Oh well? Make Belief?
  
• Russ x Jay Shetty – Money doesn’t buy happiness
• Jordan – Teammates didn’t really like him
• Elon – I’m okay
• Jobs – Bad relationships was an asshole

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Extra Philosophy if curious

• 35 mins BlueZone Documentary
• 8 min gratitude video – call people love – Story w Miles call me
• 20 min – Paradox of Choice ie maximizers vs satisficers
• 5 min Jonathan Haidt Article
  
• 15 mins – When is Success my thoughts
• 1 min Myth of Sisyphus – Doomed to boulders – Hell or Happiness
• 10 min – Does Money Buy Happiness? Kinda – Forbes 75k debunk
• 3 min – ish Money buys you happiness up to a point
• 8 min Vice Docu
• 2 hours – Gary Vee interviews old ppl

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Books/Long Podcasts

• 3 hrs Ikigai –
• Meditations Marcus Aurelius
• Happiness Hypothesis – Psychologist Jon Haidt
• 5 Regrets of the Dying
• 3 hrs Peace is Every Step – Most peaceful man alive
• How to Live on 24 Hours/Day
• Courage to Be Happy –

Related – For those in the workforce, stuff you can do today

• 4000 Weeks – Overworking
• Die With Zero – Stingy or plans to retire 62
• Digital Minimalism –

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