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- Books ~8 Hours
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My Thoughts
Concept
- What to do with it
- How to use it
- Live a life with no regrets
- Live a fulfilling life
- What do i do with my life?
Time often feels like it just ticks on forever. But time speeds up over time. It feels like we have forever. Forever, forever, forever. And then one day we wake up, boom! Life’s over. Or it’s half way over. It just keeps on sort of going. We don’t ask for it to and it doesn’t wait for us to ask. Time just keeps on sort of ticking.
And yet many of us are lulled slowly into submission in our lives. We are given a job or find ourselves in a relationship or in some life that we are not particularly fond of. Yet, what are our options? Where can we even go? How do we get out of here?
The education system, from age 5 to 18 beats obedience in to us. We are taught to stay with the pack and as a result, follow the herd. This is all well and good until the day that we wake up and realize the herd is gone, there’s nobody around.
We come in to this Earth alone and we’ll leave the same. Nobody is coming to save us and nobody is here to hold our hand through this life. It is our journey and ours alone to experience.
Love and relationships and people are what make this world a beautiful one, but if we don’t take the time to understand who we are, alone… if we don’t take a moment to stop a figure out what it is we truly want… we’ll inevitably live a life that others want us to instead of our own.
The number one most common regret by sickly patients that Bronnie Ware interviewed was “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me“.
The second one was “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard“|
We don’t have to get to the end of our lives before we start thinking about the things that make us happy and setting ourselves up to continuously do those things.
1 Min Shorts/Quotes
‘I was so focused on doing bigger and better that I forgot what was actually important – doing the things that make me happy each and every day’
Dan Bilzerian
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.”
Ferris Bueller
‘You will never get it all done. You will never finish it all. It’s called a ‘To-Do List’ for a reason. You still are going to do it.
You won’t watch all the movies you want to or read all the books you want to. Better to pick and choose the best ones. Choose your favorite and indulge’
Source: Unknown
“A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week”
General George S. Patton
Implement now, iterate later.
Probably also George S. Patton
“Treat your to-read pile like a river not a bucket”
Oliver Burkeman
It applies to every aspect of life. Projects to do, emails to answer, friends to call, dinner parties to host, hikes to do, places to visit… Most productivity gurus suggest ways to increase the rate at which we get things done, but neglect the underlying premise that we very much will never have time to get it all done in the first place. There’s always another.
‘”One burner represents your family, one is your friends, the third is your health, and the fourth is your work”
David Sedaris, Jocelyn (who’s that?), and The art of non-conformity
The gist is that in order to be successful you have to cut off one of your burners. And in order to be really successful you have to cut off two’
“Choose ahead of time the things you want to be bad at”
Essentialism by Greg McKeown, Week 82 Wanderings
Instead of expecting greatness at the infinite number of possible lifestyles, choose instead the things you’ll be bad at. This allows you the room to be tremendous at the things that really matter.
And alternatively:
“If there was 1 thing you could be truly excellent at what would it be?”
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
We want to be great at everything. We hate being awful, or worse – mediocre. But to expect to be great at all that we do is simply ignoring the finitude of our lives. There are so many directions we can go but only so much time and energy.
‘If you wanna make more money for the amount of time you put in, change the context’
Source: Unknown, Terry Rice?
‘In an era of overabundance, the most valuable resource is time’
Greg McKeown, Essentialism
“The crime which bankrupts men and states is that of job-work;—declining from your main design to serve a turn here or there.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
‘We try to do multiple things at the same time. But this avoids the inevadable truth – We have finite time on Earth.
Limited time here means tough decisions with what to do with our time.’
You can’t double book.Paraphrasing Oliver Burkeman
I used to be late perpetually. I thought I could do 2 things at once and could be 2 places at once. Inevitably, Life would end up making the decision for me. 4000 Weeks helped me figure out that Finity means tough decisions. Once I accepted that, I started actually making the decisions. It’s not enjoyable, but the alternative leaves our lives up to chance.
Finding the end state – happiness by Joe Rogan
Elon Musk – Do it in less time
‘You have to take risks.
If you’re not causing 20% of the problems from the risks you’
“If you give yourself 30 days to clean your house, it will take 30 days. If you give yourself 3 hours, it will take 3 hours”
Elon Musk
STORY: Steve Jobs announced launch of the Mac in 1 week. His engineers (Andy Hertzfeld and) insisted they needed 2 more weeks. After calling Jobs he answered coldly
‘You are good… so good that I know you will finish it. In exactly 1 week I will ship these Macs with your name on them’
After a stockpile of chocolate covered coffee beans and 3 all-nighters, the Mac was finished.
Time speeds up over time – DangerBean
What is your time worth, Dr. Jordan Peterson
5 Mins Article/Vids
How much responsibility
Fight Club scene
Pale Blue Dot by Carl Sagan
Look again at that dot. That’s here. That’s home. That’s us. On it everyone you love, everyone you know, everyone you ever heard of, every human being who ever was, lived out their lives. The aggregate of our joy and suffering, thousands of confident religions, ideologies, and economic doctrines, every hunter and forager, every hero and coward, every creator and destroyer of civilization, every king and peasant, every young couple in love, every mother and father, hopeful child, inventor and explorer, every teacher of morals, every corrupt politician, every “superstar,” every “supreme leader,” every saint and sinner in the history of our species lived there–on a mote of dust suspended in a sunbeam.
The Earth is a very small stage in a vast cosmic arena. Think of the rivers of blood spilled by all those generals and emperors so that, in glory and triumph, they could become the momentary masters of a fraction of a dot. Think of the endless cruelties visited by the inhabitants of one corner of this pixel on the scarcely distinguishable inhabitants of some other corner, how frequent their misunderstandings, how eager they are to kill one another, how fervent their hatreds.
Our posturings, our imagined self-importance, the delusion that we have some privileged position in the Universe, are challenged by this point of pale light. Our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. In our obscurity, in all this vastness, there is no hint that help will come from elsewhere to save us from ourselves.
The Earth is the only world known so far to harbor life. There is nowhere else, at least in the near future, to which our species could migrate. Visit, yes. Settle, not yet. Like it or not, for the moment the Earth is where we make our stand.
It has been said that astronomy is a humbling and character-building experience. There is perhaps no better demonstration of the folly of human conceits than this distant image of our tiny world. To me, it underscores our responsibility to deal more kindly with one another, and to preserve and cherish the pale blue dot, the only home we’ve ever known.
— Carl Sagan, Pale Blue Dot, 1994
- The Timeless Poem written by me about the incessant marching of time
15 Mins Article/Vids
Podcasts ~2 Hours
- #772 Chris Williamson -Why Our Obsession With Productivity is All Wrong
Books
- 4000 Weeks by Oliver Burkeman (1.5 hour podcast here)
- Power of Moments by Chip & Dan Heath
How to break up the monotony of life. Celebrating things you wouldn’t normally expect. - Essentialism by Greg McKeown
- How to Live on 24 Hours a Day by Arnold Bennett (written 1908)
Cool
Movies
1) Ferriss Bueller’s Day Off
2) Fight Club
3) Tik Tik Boom
Songs
You’re Gonna Miss This, Tracy Atkins
It all ends in death. When that happens, what really matters?
(country ish)
Merry Go ‘Round, Kacey Musgraves (country ish)
“Same checks we’re always cashin’
To buy a little more distraction”
Love Yourz, J. Cole
“Always gon’ be a whip that’s better than the one you got
Always gon’ be some clothes that’s fresher than the ones you rock
Always gon’ be a bitch that’s badder out there on the tours
But you ain’t never gon’ be happy ’til you love yours”
First Times, Ed Sheeran
“I thought it’d feel different playing Wembley
80,000 singing with me
It’s what I’ve been chasing ’cause this is the dream
When it was all over, I cleared out the room
Grabbed a couple beers, just me and you
Then we start talking the way that we do
Ain’t it funny how the simplest things in life can make a man?
Little moments that pass us by”
30/90, Andrew Garfield
30, Bo Burnham
I think we all wake up at one point in our lives and start to wonder what the hell the point of it all is
Once in a Lifetime, Talking Heads
Reelin’ in the Years, Steely Dan
Exercises
- Priority Matrix
Every single thing requires our utmost attention. How do we prioritize?
ERs have this same problem. And yet they prioritize or more people die.
Red – This is incredibly important and time sensitive
Orange – This is very important but doesn’t have to be done right now
Green – I want to do this thing, but not right now - Open and Closed To-do Lists by Oliver Burkeman
Have an open and closed To Do lists. Inevitably our to-do lists grow faster than we can get them done. One way to handle this is to have an infinite to-do list of all the things we want to get done, and a smaller to-do list of 2-3 things of all the active things we are completing. You cannot move on until you finish the active list. - Do, Have, Be – Tim Ferriss
Writing these down:
What do you want to do with your life?
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to have? - What do you want to be remembered for?
Death has a fantastic way of putting the important things in our lives in to perspective.
My Reflections
Weekly Wanderings
- Week 82 Wandering (6-11-24) – Getting more better things done, Choosing directions is tough, Being bad at stuff, A common regret
- Week 61 Wanderings (1-9-24)