1. In the end none of it matters
2. We improve from people questioning us
3. Pity Parties
4. Our feelings are valid, but our conclusions might not be

The Existential Journey

“How can you enjoy a whole orange if you don’t enjoy 1 slice?”
– Dr. Brene Brown and Dr. Amishi Jha (full 1 hr podcast “Finding Your Focus and Owning Your Attention”)

This one hits particularly hard. I’m not sure why… but it does. I’ve been thinking a lot recently about joy and happiness and meaning. I guess at the end of our lives none of it matters if we didn’t enjoy the process… and how can we enjoy the process if we don’t enjoy today?

Reminds me a lot about what matters day in n day out. I owe peace to myself too.

Barriers are sometimes just Boundaries… we need boundaries

“Leaders are remembered by the questions they ask”

Heard this is a group meeting last week. For some reason it stuck out. I guess a lot of the influential people I’ve had haven’t accepted what I’ve said at face value, but forced me to question it further… why AM I doing the things I’m doing. It’s painful to be questioned and told I’m doing things wrong, but it makes me better in the long run.

Feelings Are Real

“We’re entitled to every emotion we feel”

Nobody can take away the experience we’re having, that doesn’t mean though that we can’t change the outcomes of those situations in the future. We’re allowed to still feel those things, but perhaps the Pity Party we throw ourselves isn’t the most useful way to learn from situations. We can feel shitty, I’ve found the useful question to ask is “What did I Learn”

We’re also not entitled to treat other people however we want as a result of those feelings. (Has been a difficult one for me to implement)

An Article I’m Reading

To Do or To Be by Col John Boyd

I got half way through this article and had to put it down because this dude is such a savage. Literally didn’t get promoted in the Air Force because he told people they were wrong… and they were.